Here are some reflective questions to assist with moving on without bitterness and wounding from a relationship break-up:
- Do I have all of my heart back or have I left some parts behind? What parts do I need to re-claim?
- Can I encourage my heart to love again?
- Can I forgive?
- Can I choose which conversations I will participate in? (to others and in my head and do these conversations empower me or drag me back?)
- Do I determine how much respect is in my communication and relationships (operating out of the best of myself, holding myself and others to account)
- What boundaries can I set?
- Does my YES mean YES, and my NO mean NO (or am I flagging that I can be manipulated or malleable)?
- Do I decide where I spend my time, talent, energy and resources? (intentionality)
- Do I know how to keep my love, joy and peace on at all times? (spiritual integration)
- Am I good at identifying the feelings and needs that I have (Honest self-reflection and facing my truth)
- Am I good at valuing those feelings and needs? (identification is first, then prioritising)
- Am I good at communicating those feelings and needs? (letting others know and not expecting mind reading or letting others get away with not respecting your feelings and needs)
- Do the people I choose to be in a relationship with know how to do the same? (iron sharpens iron)
- Do they value me?
- Do they value themselves?
- Do they control themselves?
- Have they forgiven those they need to?
(Based on questions posed in the Relationship Breakup Mediations on “Soul Time” App by Danny Silk)
